Why Is It Taking Me So Long To Heal?


Why Is It Taking Me So Long To Heal?

Welcome everyone to our class on why am I not healed yet and why does the healing process take so long for some people versus others this is a very big and Hot Topic in our community where we're dealing with all sorts of different chronic illnesses and Trauma patterns and I know that it can be disheartening sometimes to hear.

Testimonials where people are like wow I brain retrained for 4 months and I'm Healed and you've been doing this for a year or so or maybe longer and you're like what is wrong with me well I wanted to address a lot of the common the common reasons now this is not going to be a complete discussion by any means but um I wanted to you know just touch.

Base on that we probably get this question more than any question what is going on and I just want to say that this idea of what is blocking my healing it's an ongoing learning process for all of us in this field for all of us coaches platform leaders doctors we're constantly learning more about what is going on with chronic illness who gets.

Better and who doesn't I mean 10 years ago no one even talked about lyic system retraining I mean it existed but you hardly heard about it and now we know that that's helpful so we've made a lot of progress in 10 years on chronic illness and every year I can guarantee you my ideas are going to be different I tend to get new ahas uh every few days.

Days it seems so what we're teaching now it might change 6 months from now so just know that this is an evolving understanding this is why in our program Primal trust we have several iterations of each of my courses because as we learn what works and what doesn't and what new ideas need to be highlighted we're attempting to bring you these.

Insights now I'm going to go through a lot of ideas today and some of them might resonate and others of them might trigger you if you get triggered please be willing to maybe take some inquiry into why that's triggering also feel free to toss out what is not resonant for you all right I'm just simply sharing my.

Personal views based on my experience of noticing the patterns of who heals easier versus those who have a more difficult time and again there's no right or perfect answer to this question if we knew the answers we wouldn't have this chronic illness epidemic that we have in our world I think that this community is on the front lines of.

Facing these challenges and and answering these questions learning from each other and I think it's part of our duty to share what we're learning with the world I think that we're changing lives with this understanding let's just start with some common things that I hear from those who do heal I've been doing a lot of testimonial videos I've.

Been getting you know hundreds well thousands now of testimonials pouring in and there's some common denominators between what people tell me and also what I hear from other platforms like things that I hear people say from Dr jod Spence's work they tend to say the same things and here's a list of them one of the first things that I always.

Hear is I literally had to become a different person I had to become a different person to heal so as I'm talking here take note into what that means for you what is that different person another one was that I became very aware of my fear and my negative thoughts I learned how to think differently they became very conscious.

Of their unconscious thought habits and then that followed up with I created new habits so that I could act differently I practiced feeling differently even when parts of me hated the way I felt or what my symptoms were I practiced feeling differently I practiced getting different perceptions so different thoughts different behaviors different.

Feelings they became a different personality in fact maybe this process revealed to them who they really were versus expecting to heal by remaining the same with the same fear base same resistance same habits but I think the most powerful statement of all that I hear again and again the one that's the most touching is when somebody says I.

Learn to love myself I learned to have compassion with myself and I learned to put myself first that statement right there I learned to put myself first what does that mean for you what does that mean to put yourself first so there's some insights into what people say when they do heal so today.

I'm going to be discussing all of these things I'm just giving you a big overview before I get into the materials so that you know what's coming we're going to talk about the common roadblocks and I'm going to go through about eight of those now there are more roadblocks and what I have here but I'm just going through some of the most.

Common ones that I see so we're going to talk about relationship dysfunction trauma the fixa anxiety type Drive being stuck in a wired or tired crash Loop unconscious beliefs are resistance to healing and secondary gains that's often a very triggering topic so I'm just going to warn you on that one uh having a protective.

Defensive territorial protection type personality having a lack of movement and exercise and lastly other physical things like structural issues especially upper cervical issues physical issues nutrient and mineral deficiencies that can play a role but we're also going to talk about some approaches to be focusing on to help help you with your.

Your healing process one of them becoming conscious of your unconscious habits relaxing around our triggers and symptoms living as if it's already happened finding incremental safety and in each moment the idea of transforming versus recovery and lastly true self-alignment and living our highest vibration again these are my opinions.

And experience and um you are welcome to disagree so let's start with relationship uh Point number one relationship dysfunction a lot of people will say I have a really toxic marriage I'm married to a narcissist my parent was a narcissist I have a strained relationship with my kids my parents my partner um no one really cares for me or.

My uh I don't really have family support I have a lot of resentment blame or disrespect for my partner or somebody else or the feeling that that the people around you are just fed up with you and your illness and you could be using tools you know for our you know a couple hours a day but if the majority of your environment is spent in this kind of.

Toxic Dynamic can really impact Your Capacity to heal the pendulum of you know being in this emotionally unhealthy environment doesn't easily swing from illness to Vitality if that environment doesn't shift as well now we often say you know to work on rewiring yourself and working on your own beliefs Etc sometimes people do that but they don't.

Change their beliefs and their perspectives towards their relationships and yet they expect their body to have a healing biochemistry just because they spent an hour a day feeling good them themselves but the rest of the day in a lot of resistance and a lot of resentment so this is kind of like the elephant in the.

Room idea like you're like why am I not he feeling well what are you living like what is your emotional state like most of the day we have a lot of inflammation that's created when we are in relationship disharmony it's often the original wounding is our relationships that's often the original symptom before your body ever gets sick is you feel.

Attachment wounding you feel hurt by others and so if you're not focusing on that that could be one of the reasons why your healing is slowed down and so you know working on that and also I'll say even more working on a healthy intimate life is another big piece in having healthy connection um having a connection with our sensuality our.

Sexuality that is shown to boost our immune system and help our detoxification system turn on and calming our nervous system so all these things are very important one of the things I think is interesting is when you think of the idea of cell danger response which we talk about in module one cell danger response is a cell that.

Has l literally formed such a protective hardened outer layer that it is not allowing nutrients in but it's also not allowing toxins out it's literally stuck in toxicity and sometimes I think it's interesting that our outer World mirrors that inner world meaning we're stuck in a toxic environment that we're not shifting we're not changing we're.

Protecting against and yet we're expecting to heal just like the cell we're expecting our cell to heal when it's in stuck in a protection response and it's not even letting go of toxins so that same idea you know as within without how is your outer environment keeping you stuck in a protective response and how that might that be.

Influencing you all the way down to a cellular level mostly I just want you to really sit and absorb does this relate to you and any insights that come into you be sure to jot them down the next uh thing was trauma I mentioned trauma those who have a significant trauma history especially developmental trauma attachment trauma they often take longer.

To heal because the nervous system has been long wired to be in a chronic stress State the nervous system doesn't even remember what regulation is you grow up in trauma and it's normal to feel anxiety sympathetic rushing on edge that feels normal it doesn't even feel like a stress response anymore because you've normalized it since you were a.

Child and a lot of people trauma don't even think they're in trauma they just live this ramped up way and it can take some deeper tools other than just brain retraining such as we teach in our level two program to process trauma to develop a healthy inner relationship we call it the healthy adult mean personality or this internal connected self that is a.

Brain state that allows the nervous system to feel safety maybe for the first time in your life and that needs to come online to be able to self-heal like you've got to find an inherent sense of safety even if it was never there in addition to our level two and our level three program that where we work a little bit more on.

Trauma I highly recommend one-on-one work there's something about being witnessed with your wounding that really helps to resolve trauma I really like internal family systems work or ifs work I like sematic experiencing I also like people helping you with emotional Freedom technique those are all powerful trauma healing modalities that I.

Personally used and I still use when I have stuff come up next is the fix it type A overdoing personality this is a big one that I see in our community because it is often this personality that is the classic setup for the crash and burn chronic fatigue syndrome it's a personality that overdoes overachieves pushes.

Himself um tries to do way too many things at once and then they come into a healing program with that exact same personality and expect to heal when they're approaching it with a very fear-based drive it's a very fear-based drive and this is why we actually have one of the reasons why we have a forced pacing in.

Our level one program because I had a lot of that like overzealous Drive kind of people coming into our program when I didn't used to have drip release modules they would binge watch everything they would do like 20 tools a day and completely burn themsel out because they're frantically trying to fix themselves.

And it was a total counterproductive event and then they're like your tools don't work it made me worse I was like how many of them did you do your first day how many hours of videos did you watch if you're somebody that's frantically reading all the books you can everything on Google that is an anxiety based approach that is a stress.

Chemistry approach to using these tools so if that is you slow down it's going to be hard you're going hate it you're going to hate practicing that same stupid tool for module one or module three for a whole week before the next one but you're also retraining your entire response which is a kind of trauma response to go go go do do do.

That more is not necessarily better it's about recognizing that you've done enough and relaxing into I've done enough for today with my tools now I can just enjoy my life what else could I do today rather than oh my gosh I've got to fix it and I know that the pain and the suffering are driving this response I know cuz it's me I'm that personality.

Type too as well and we're just in such a rush to get better but we're actually in a rush for everything this type of personality and it honestly just keeps you in inflammation in stress chemistry and probably in a Cell danger response so that's what I think about that and that is why we Pace why we try to teach you how to you know slow down digest the.

Material practice tools before moving on to the next tools and that kind of leads to the next point that I had to make was being stuck in a wired and tired Loop so for those of you who are new here you might not have watched module 2 where we talk about the poly vagal Theory where we have this idea that our nervous system has basically three different.

States where you've got a state of safety you've got a state of sympathetic Drive which is fight and flight a lot of energy anxiety and then there's another state called dorsal veal collapse and shutdown when you've just like you know blown your nervous system up and it has just been tired and what can happen especially for those who are stuck with.

Chronic fatigue or long-term illness they can go from being so tired to all of a sudden really wired and have a bunch of energy overdo it crash and just tired sometimes you're literally feeling wired and tired at the same time you're stuck between dorsal vagal and sympathetic activation you're stuck between collapse and adrenaline and the.

Body is just like locked up with it and getting out of that wired and tired Loop takes capacity to be in vental vagal connection this is something that Deb Dana one of the poly vagal teachers explains so beautifully she says that our body our nervous system is always trying to keep us safe and sometimes safety means we need to collapse because.

You're overdoing it and sometimes safety is like oh my gosh we need to mobilize we've been shut down we've got to like get things moving or else you know the body is just you know it needs to move and the nervous system is is in between those States when you're in that wired state it might feel like you have energy and that might be a day where you're.

Like oh good I finally have energy and you go do a thousand things but it's not really energy that you have to use it's actually adrenaline that's trying to pull your body out of collapse I think Deb Dana calls it fake energy it's not energy to get things done it's energy trying to lift your nous system out of collapse and so she talks about making.

Sure that you are in a state a of vental vagal safety and calm and pacing while you start to notice increased energy as you start pulling out of the collapse state so you might notice like wow I have a little more energy today I'm just still going to take it easy and enjoy that I'm more energetic I'm going to build my sense of.

Safety but not overdo it even though I have more energy today and over time your actual reserve of energy is going to increase but if you feel that increase of energy a lot of people start to feel an increase of energy when they start the Vegas nerve toning Tools in module 3 and they will literally burns out because they're so excited to have.

Energy they'll go run their ears they go meet up with friends they'll like oh yeah I'm feeling good and then completely crash again because it wasn't real energy it was just your nervous system getting more uh getting more of a sympathetic online and it's flooding you with a little bit of adrenaline to you know pull you out of dorsal Bagel.

Shutdown so pacing steadiness staying in calm ventral vagel even though you might be feeling wired and tired that's going to slowly help you incrementally move out of that wired and tired Loop all right next one the unconscious resistance to Second and secondary gains okay lots of you might not like what I have to say next so can plug your.

Ears or listen in one of the things that I realized as a coach working with people is that there's parts of them that got a lot of needs met by being sick maybe it was the first time in their life where that diagnosis and lab test was valid ated by their family or maybe just EV validated them having this identity of I have ex disease or I have.

This autoimmune thing or I have whatever and an identity that maybe has went through a lot of suffering a lot of trauma has been gaslighted a lot in your life or ignored or invalidated gets a type of validation and it will cling on to that like you wouldn't believe this is all unconscious I'm not saying this is conscious this is.

Very deep unconscious stuff and then your conscious self is trying to heal it's doing all the things doing the program but your unconscious self is like no this symptom this tiredness this diagnosis I finally can show people this is why I don't feel well can't you see it it's in this lab test the doctor said whereas maybe another time in your life.

You were really hurt and nobody saw it that was the case with me I like nobody validated what I had went through and they still don't and when I got my diagnosis I was like I have a real reason why I'm suffering and I was really attached to that myself for a long time and there are things that I can still find unconscious resistance to.

It's it's not like you know it it's common in all of us some people call this the victim mentality but don't think of it as a victim think of it as a part that's finally getting in need met it's precious it might be getting service in a way that it's never had in its life it might be a part that says you know what I'm too tired to do that.

Today can you help me and it feels like it's justified in saying no whereas maybe in your life earlier you were never feeling like you could say no because if you did you were weren't being nice or you weren't helping somebody out this is a part that is finding um maybe a dysfunctional way to get real needs met you know it's.

Something to really look into we look into this more in level two and level three and a lot of times people hear this and it just really turns them off they're like there's no way I want this you don't understand I'm suffering so bad I hate this I know consciously you don't and I'm not saying that everyone has this but some signs that you do have.

This would be this do you talk about your symptoms a lot can you go a day with out telling somebody that you don't feel well if you can't you have this part I guarantee it do you avoid showing Joy or happiness to your loved ones to your spouse to your parents if you do you have this part we are trying to retrain our brain to be in joy to be.

In calm to be in gratitude and yet if we can't show that that frequency that energy to somebody else there's a part of us that resists being seen happy healthy and vital and that just simply means that there's some trauma healing to do there's some parts work to do some forgiveness work to do and some.

Acknowledgement that this part wants to get this need met and you're going to have to show it you know what I can get this need met in a higher and better way I can ask for help not only because I'm sick and I can feel confident enough to ask for help even though I feel well simply because I want help or I can I can validate myself I know what I went.

Through I don't need this identity and this lab test to show to my parents to finally validate that I suffered you know so there's some things here to think about it's a deep journey to unravel this peace another thing that I want to say about this is that sometimes parts of us are afraid that if we're well we're going to throw oursel under.

The bus again so it's not about you know wanting validation as much as this another type of part of us literally doesn't want us to go against oursel it doesn't want us to say yes when we mean no it doesn't want us to show up for everybody else but ourself and when we get sick sometimes we finally start to show up for oursel take care of oursel.

Spend time with oursel and this part is like oh my gosh this is the answer this is all unconscious and so you've got to show this part and I've really had to do this this is how I'm going to still meet my needs even though I feel well and you know what you guys if I don't start meeting my needs if I throw myself under the bus I will feel it this part gets.

Active and I'm like okay I need to mark off on the calendar Kathleen time I need to say no to these things and then that part calms down again and it allows my energy to come back so things to really consider and do some journaling about an inquiry maybe working with a coach or with a friend to talk through this to even admitting this admitting this can.

Be so healing telling a friend you know what I found a part of me that's afraid to show my spouse that I can be happy because I'm afraid he's going to expect me to do more go back to work wow just admitting it can be life force producing another triggering next one a protective defensive territorial personality type this is one that I.

See when I was coaching this was the type of person that it was like fighting with them to like do anything it was like everything I said they had 10,000 protective reasons why they couldn't 10,000 justifications like they literally wanted to prove to me they couldn't be helped and it was exhausting I stopped.

Taking them as clients at one point because I realized they just want to prove they've been wronged to everybody including paying a coach a lot of money to sit there and listen and it was it was infuriating for me too um actually it actually eventually I was sad because I felt completely helpless to help this personality type it's somebody who.

Probably had a lot of trauma and went into to a protective response to survive and again this is where we have to have compassion if this is you or if you know somebody like this it's simply a survival strategy but it has a lot of defensiveness a lot of fear a lot of what we often call territorial conflicts this is mine um don't cross you know.

It's a very like it's somebody who's had to sort of be in a war to Sur in some ways at some point and now their whole personality is dependent upon being seen that way is like this Warrior that um everybody is also wronging at the same time and they've tried everything and nothing works for them it's a very inflammatory personality and it.

Literally is a very inflammatory biochemistry uh because you're think of cell danger response from module one the cells get hardened in a protection response and if your personality is mimicking that you're not going to detoxify very well you're not going to absorb nutrients very well you're going to be in a highly inflamed State your.

Immune system is going to be offline your digestion is going to be offline and this type of person I really believe benefits from very safe co-regulation they've got to find a therapist to really help them maybe form a safe relationship for the first time in their life someone they can actually trust ultimately it's massive distrust.

In the world and part of them wants to get well but a part of them does not want to let go of that protective response because they're so afraid they're going to get screwed over in some way so this is where if this is you I believe you need more than this program you need somebody to help you somebody safe to help you find trust and.

To grow that and to start to believe that you can let that guard down and let love in I want to speak to worthiness a little bit worthiness is something that we talk a little bit about in level two it's something that if you follow Dr Joe's work he believes it's one of the cornerstones of what allows people to heal is the ability to feel worthy to.

Receive worthy to receive life for us despite everything you've done everything that's happened and a lot of us have programming inside of us that we're never worthy enough we're never good enough we're trying to find salvation constantly and we haven't fixed oursel yet we're still not a great mom we still haven't lost that weight we.

Still haven't changed this and sometimes parts of us literally will not let us receive our own life force because it simply doesn't feel worthy yet you haven't achieved or fixed and resolved and this is where um forgiveness practices I think are really important acknowledgement in level two we have a Divine neutrality process that I think.

Can help lead to more worthiness Shadow work hoopono Pono another one that I'm recently learning about it's called the core of atonement um these are a couple modalities that can kind of help with worthiness um simply acknowledging your shame to somebody else the things you've done and letting this person witness you and say I still think you're worthy.

Getting that external can sometimes help ultimately it needs to come from our self a decision that even though we're flawed and we've done X Y and Z we're just messy humans trying to do the best we can with the programming that we've been given now here's the thing it's easier to do this for yourself if you start practicing on this with somebody.

Else somebody that you've judged is Unworthy of your love someone that you've judged um should be different for them to really get your you know your approval practicing because you're doing the same thing you're withholding life force from them because they aren't worthy yet too so starting to notice your own judgments we go.

Through this in level two as well someone asked what does worthiness mean that answer to me is constantly evolving it's an evolving answer it used to mean something years ago from a religious sense and now it is just this innate Birthright to me that I simply am part of divine existence and therefore because I'm already part of it I'm.

Worthy of all that divine love has to offer it's just simply my Birthright because I exist that's sort of how I'm seeing it these days okay couple more things here lack of movement in exercise it's kind of a big deal if you're not moving do you know that there are lots of parts of your brain that literally communicate by having our cross crawl.

Action of our arms and legs walking is like the number one thing you can do to keep keep your brain healthy it's how our brain develops as children like if children don't walk they have all sorts of issues with brain communication it's the same thing with adults when we stop walking we have all sorts of left and right hemisphere midbrain brain stem.

Communication that goes offline which affects our autonomic nervous system it affects our all sorts of systems in our body so I know some of you are very ill here some of you are probably bed bound and I know what that's like too and so you've got to find creative ways to move and exercise and eventually I think even lifting weights is incredibly important.

For um for our health so if you're bed bound I mean just simple stretching exercises in bed you know moving your arms you know back and forth up and down the squeeze relax exercise we learn in module five of regulate um chiong um even like fasal stretching there's a lot on that right now uh there's a free program that a lot of people are talking.

About called human garage that has a whole like online fasal stretching program that I hear great things about all of these things help our our our building blocks and I find that a lot of times when people start moving um maybe they've been retraining for a while but they haven't been moving when they finally like feel safe enough to start.

Moving and exercising a lot of their um recovery starts to really increase and they do a lot better someone asked about a rebounder yeah absolutely a whole B Vibe plate things like that anything to get movement and I like to start with just simple isometric contractions of like your arms and legs that's really helpful for pots they find that.

Literally just simply Contracting your arms for certain amount of time can help with regulating your blood pressure in the same thing with the legs that's where I would start that's why we have this squeeze relax program in module 5 the Hannah atics exercises are ones you can do laid laying down we teach that in module 5 as well so walking or things.

That you can do in bed I think are is is crucial the last uh section that I wanted to talk about was uh structural issues and other physical issues that could be contributing like nutrient and mineral deficiencies yes I believe that you can heal without a lot of supplements and diets and things like that I see that happen with lots and.

Lots of people but some people do well if they can add those things in if they truly have uh been sick so long that there are uh deplete of a lot of minerals it can be helpful to do that um again you know I'm not a purist with like nervous system alone I think there's a place for functional medicine um for some people if they choose to do.

That and then specifically I wanted to talk about structural issues um especially with the spine and especially with the upper cervical spine there's a lot of communication in our autonomic nervous system that happens between our spine and our brain and when that area is offline or you have ligament laxity Etc that can really affect your vagus.

Nerve function it can affect so many things in your body it can cause chronic fatigue syndrome there's a lot of research about this I personally am actually dealing with an upper cervical issue right now myself and uh it's been shocking how impactful it is in the body when I was a physical therapist I used to treat um upper cervical issues.

Ligament laxity issues and it was shocking to me how much it impacted People's Energy their anxiety level things like that and so you know it's something to look into I highly recommend seeing a specific upper cervical specialist if you've been dealing with uh this kind of thing I like um you know I wouldn't say just any.

Chiropractic specialist I think an actual upper cervical specialist for that kind of thing and getting that treated is uh really really beneficial for people and that's in in general your whole spine and uh you know it affects your whole nervous system it affects your your organs so that's why movement is so important so those are some things.

That you know a lot of people don't think about and uh can get pushed to the Wayside when you know they can actually be playing a big role into your healing and recovery process so that um is the uh the roadblocks and now I want to move into some approaches to help with the healing process let's talk about some things that we can do um that I see very.

Helpful for people of course I mention a lot of these things in our program but sometimes highlighting them again just gives you a new insight so the first thing that we do in regulate is we learn how to start becoming conscious of our unconscious habits and some people think that pattern interrupt exercise in module one is just silly but it's.

Actually maybe the most important one because if you can start becoming conscious that you are unconsciously stressed all the time then you can actually change it because you can't change anything you're not conscious about and you need to get space and so that's why we do that pattern interrupt it's a way to start um.

Noticing how we've been living you might not even realize that you have chronic stressed thoughts until you start doing pattern interrupt and what happens is as we do that pattern interrupt we start to become present with what's uncomfortable inside of us we get to decide do I want to have Allegiance with this and there's this space that happens that allows us.

To Pivot from one neurop Pathway to another into creating a different trajectory for that moment and then those moments string together and then that day is a different trajectory sometimes we recognize wow I have a ton of guilt and shame in here and I didn't realize it because I usually grab my phone and distract.

Myself but if I sit with this I get really freaking uncomfortable oh my gosh that's probably affecting my biochemistry so that's what we do number one we we start becoming conscious of our unconscious habits with the pattern interrupt it's so simple and it's incredibly foundational so don't ignore that tool like it it should be your.

Go-to tool actually and then that leads me into the second uh Point here which is relaxing around our symptoms this is a practice that everyone here should get really good at how to relax around your worries and around your symptoms and relaxing doesn't mean that you're fully happy with them um it's about letting what's there be there because it is.

There it's not about liking it but it's about trusting that it's temporary and having faith that it's going to shift because it's just a pattern you don't need to resist and contract around it just because you don't like it so the exercise let's just go through it right now think about something that you're resisting maybe it's a symptom in your.

Body maybe it's a financial situation a person noticing that you're resisting and that you've been maybe hyper focusing on that that your mind is associating it with danger and it's probably creating stress chemistry so whatever this thing is this symptom the situation what would happen if you just allowed yourself to imagine like.

Literally like surrounding it and then somatically relaxing around it just let it exist let it be part of you or part of your experience right now just like let it be there why because it is there it does exist so you got to face reality that's the first step Let It Be There soften around it.

But here's the catch don't put any meaning to it any thoughts of this isn't safe this means I'm going to get worse this means this is going to happen or that's going to happen all of that is what produces the stress chemistry it's not the thing Let It Be there remember you've got a great intelligence running your.

Body running your life deciding that for right now it can be there and just trusting that just like everything in life it's about to change at some point and you might as well soften around it you just start building this belief that you don't have to worry and contract every time you feel something.

Something you can just let it be there so you become conscious of it with the pattern erupt and then you relax around it and that's how you start building Primal trust simple it's so simple it's hard to do but it's simple right so if you have to remember anything right now try to relax around everything that you become.

Aware of throughout your day and that's going to help shift your biochemistry okay next up living as if it's already happened the famous catchline from Dr Joe but he's right about it um when I interview people and I ask them what it how they started healing they say this they say I started finding celebrating my life that I was going to.

Have and I started feeling grateful for it and I rehearsed that over and over again so I knew what it felt like so I could literally create that frequency in my life right now and experience it right now as if it's happening right now that's the whole premise of neuroplastic brain retraining and gosh we have so much resistance to doing that don't we.

The brains like or parts of us are like no it's not happening you're lying to yourself yeah it maybe so but I I want to practice knowing what it feels like um and bringing teaching myself Sub Conscious what to expect because you'll learn in level two what you teach your subconscious to expect is what you attract into your life we're literally.

Magnets for what we expect and what we feel like in the frequency that we're running through our body so this requires a lot of rehearsal and it's powerful and that's what we're doing with brain retraining and I also want to just say that um you know even Vegas nerve work that's also something that requires a.

Lot of re rehearsal Sometimes some of you are doing some of the new exercises just like brain retraining it's a rehearsal repetition based thing just like doing a bicep you don't do three bicep curls and be like why isn't my bicep stronger same thing with the vagus neres same thing with the brain you've got to rehearse these things next I.

Talked about finding incremental safety in each moment and we've talked about this a bit already and um this is one of the principles that I learned that helps you shift out of the uh sympathetic drive or the dorsal drive into ventral vagel which is why in um regulate we talk about this am I safe am I safe how right.

Now can you find and this let this just be an exercise how can you incrementally find a little bit more safety right now 15% more safety for me I'm noticing I've got my water right here so I don't have to go anywhere to get water and I can hydrate myself I feel a little safer now I'm noticing the sunshine on my face breathing that.

In 15% more safe um I've got this candle burning I'm looking at it it's beautiful I'm just noticing the beauty of the fire another 15% more safety turning on vental vagel bit by bit by bit just with conscious attention to how can I find a little bit more safety that's going to help you climb up that poly vagal ladder that we.

Talk about you do that enough throughout the day you're bringing in more vental vagel you're bringing in more of a rewired sense of your reality you're teaching your nervous system that safety does exist even though you might have symptoms transforming versus recovery you guys have heard my Spiel on this when we have a goal that is in the.

Distance the ego has a hard time being satisfied with the now and if you're not satisfied with the now that distant goal just keeps getting pushed off and off and off so if you're like my goal is to recover which I know most of your you that is your goal I would like you to reframe that to my goal is to transform and this is because recovery.

To Your Ego usually means I don't have symptoms and I'm finally happy and I'm living the life I want but if your goal is transformation you can transform In This Moment Like just doing these exercises you can go from being stressed to safe I just had a moment of transformation um being more conscious.

So that you respond to your child versus react you just had a moment of transformation today you can be transformed and that will lead to tomorrow it's a little easier to transform because you are you have more self-esteem more self-respect that you've already transformed today and then it's about a life journey.

Of transformation and recovery and feeling better is just part of it but it's not the whole goal anymore in fact a lot of people once they recover they don't even care about their symptoms being gone they're just so happy to be a different person to be behaving differently and so if you have your focus on your symptoms you're missing.

Out on a potential much bigger recovery which is the Reclamation of yourself your true self and your joy and lastly I just want to bring into your attention the idea of true self-alignment living our highest vibration every day I mean this is what we're we're doing with all of this how can I be the highest version Highest.

Potential version of myself today how can I respond and behave in a way that is my best self and when we feel like we're living in alignment with our true self this vital force just floods into US it feels amazing yeah like someone says I dance I sing I play music that exactly it brings in the sense of true self this vibration.

And that is so healing so finding things that help you feel like you are expressing your true authentic self that is what I recommend so that is the end of this part of why am I not healing and how do I shift it's a big class and there's probably so much more that could say and I hope that it was helpful to you guys I hope that you got.

Some ahas and some self-reflection and it's something that we can visit again and again you know talk with others talk with others in the community about about have conversations about these things illuminate these Concepts so that it's uh more clear to you and more clear to your subconscious what it is that you're wanting to shift and um you know this is.

How we this is how we heal we just illuminate all of our blind spots and try to see them in ourselves and be able to make different choices

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