Undergo Grylls | Psychological Successfully being & Past | Talks at Google


Undergo Grylls | Psychological Successfully being & Past | Talks at Google

hello everybody hello hello hello excellent I'm uh I'm Matt Britain and welcome to this talks at Google I'm really excited it's going to be a true adventure because we have Bear Grills he's probably the most recognizable face of Adventure on the entire planet he is a former UK 21 SAS Soldier he's one of.

The youngest people ever to climb Mount Everest he did it actually despite breaking his back in a freeall accident only months earlier as you do um he's the host of Extreme Adventure TV globally probably the biggest host globally of such genre on the planet Man versus wild we love that yes we got some fans here running wild with Bear Grills.

Now in its eighth season he's had guests including President Obama remember that eating a eating a salmon together Roger Federer Julia Roberts the prime minister of India president zalinsky of the Ukraine and many many more he's got an interactive Netflix series you versus world where viewers decide what he what the challenges are I don't know whether.

This is one of the challenges they gave him but we'll see uh he's also a double bafter winner an Emmy winner a family man a best-selling author with more than 20 million books worldwide he's an honorary Colonel to the Royal Marines Commandos he was Chief Scout and he's now the first ever Chief ambassador to over 57 million Scouts worldwide.

He also hosted a lovely dinner party 7.4 km above the ground record-breaking suspended from from a balloon where they served ducka orang so bringing us bang up to date he's involved in launching metal which is a new mental health app for men so let's start the adventure please give an incredible welcome to Bear.

Grills welcome thank you hey guys such a nice introduction well I had to cut it down you've done so much well no you're so kind I always sort of I'm always backstage slightly kind of uh I was feel mindful of the truth also that I'm a really regular person I'm not like not nearly as as smart good strong brilliant.

As sometimes that intro makes out um but I'd be so lucky in my life you know we St I always feel we stand on the shoulders all of us of many Giants in our life have helped us and um and I listen to that intro and and I'm reminded of great people who help me and believed to me when sometimes we don't believe in ourselves which which we all.

Go through from time don't we so thank you what got you started there what was there somebody that really um prompted you to be adventurous to take risks yeah I think there's been there's been a catalog of brilliant people who I often look back on now and think gosh I should um and I have done over the years gone back and contacted people and just said.

Thank you you know cuz sometimes it key junctures you're kind of on a Miss you're going and it's not until you stop sometimes and look back but in terms of key figures I think I think my dad was definitely one my late dad he he died when we I was too young really it was it was it was sad but he was a really lovely dad to me growing up uh he's a.

Guy taught me to climb at a young age he'd been a raw Marines Commando and uh and I think I took Adventure for granted as a kid it was like just part of everyday life you know as soon as I got back from school which was certainly for me I was never any Superstar at school you know I struggled actually a lot during that time but home is always a.

Place where like that didn't matter this is more important we're off to the hills we're going climbing we're working on this little kind of boat we're trying to build or fix up together and I look back and I think those Bonds were are so important you know I'm a dad to three teenage boys now and and you know that that's really that's our wealth in life.

Isn't it the the when we invest time and energy and love and commitment and everything into those close relationships in our lives whatever their form they take that time is never wasted so so yeah so if I'm one of your kids I'm coming home from school I'm being forced up a mountain what are you doing to pass on that gift well well no.

You know it's much less cliche than that for for me I think the other part of being a dad is you got to encourage you got to encourage your kid to find that thing yeah whatever it is it it's definitely doesn't have to be mountains but I think there is something about the outdoors isn't there that whoever we are whatever level we feel we're at that the.

Outdoors does something for all of us that I see it every day it lights people up you know whether it's young scouts or whether it's guests on running wild you know who maybe have never done anything like this before the outdoors and adventure and challenge it ignites us you can't buy that feeling it's like like come on whether it's walking an.

Extra 10 minutes on the commu in the morning rather than taking the last two stops on a tube whatever it is being outside is is a good thing and I kind of think I'm only just beginning to articulate that even though I've known it all my life it's like so obvious like nature always knows best isn't it and because given what you're doing now it's.

Just looking I didn't cover a lot of it in intro I leave so much out but um you're doing an extraordinary array of things which are themed around inspiring people to listen to their Adventure self so as you're starting to articulate tell us what that means to you and why you've sort of put put that at the center of what you're doing.

Now I think there's so much anxiety isn't there we see that all around us in our own lives in those close to us in our families and it's just I think the pace of change for people is hard sometimes to manage hard to keep up with you know Humanity's never gone through this rate of change before we've had hard times but never that accelerated.

Pace of change and somebody described the other day it's not a tidal wave it's a tsunami you know and it's increasing and that that pressure for especially for young people and you know you it's it's hard it's hard and I think so much anxiety gets Amplified when we live out of outside of what feels natural to us what our what our this calling is and I.

Think so much of life is just trying to find the courage inside to to follow that and it doesn't mean we all have to you know throw everything away and kind of go down that but it's just it's just listening it's just having a listening ear to our hearts a bit more and um and it's what metal is about it's what you know our men's mental health is about.

It's trying to Resource men especially who I think are much worse generally than women in in finding effective tools and resources to help us be on the front foot in terms of having positive mental health and that's so many brilliant things for you know especially well for men and women but definitely skewed I feel more towards women you know that.

That mental health stuff so I think metal was trying to do something that spoke to to that demographic of men that feel the same pressures you know we all feel the same pressures life is a million miles an hour but we maybe don't have the resources and the places to go to to uh to to find things that help us and I think the the clever thing about.

Metal is that it's you know it's not you wouldn't be embarrassed to show your friends in a for a man you know you're not embarrassed to it's not like oh this is a mental health thing this is like this is good this is if it's definitely the language and everything just skewed a bit more male you know it's a bit more competitive and it's a bit more earning.

This and all the things that plays to our our DNA a little bit more uh but it's had a really wonderful positive effect already and and that's all we've been trying to do is trying to Resource people to be on that front foot for life when the challenges come which they they always do so I've got a question from one of our audience here um mark from.

Kirtland and he he asks have you got any tips for fathers on how to take charge of their mental and physical well-being he says he's got multiple young children I think quite a few in the audience have that now and the combined demands of parenting and work feels overwhelming at times any stories or advice either from your own Sons or how you were doing in.

Terms of uh dealing with that moment I suppose that's getting to the heart of what metal is is for really somebody feeling like like that yeah such it's such a good question and it's relevant to all of us really and first of all I speak always from a place of of uh of actually from failure because I definitely don't get.

All of this right I I speak from a place of the the simple things that I found that help me but I've definitely failed in many ways in in in terms of this but I think in ultimately so much of life and Leadership and Parenthood which is really really all wrapped up together is is is a bad example example example example isn't that what they say.

Three words of Parenthood and I think certainly when it kind comes to building our own mental resilience and and and as a family as an individual as a husband or a wife you know that that's so key and it's exhausting in life it's like working for a workaholic it's exhausting it's not a good example it's not a good example to your team not a good example.

Your children it's not a good example to anyone but sometimes there pressure it's like you've got to and then you end up then the masks end up going up and then we stop being true to this stuff that we were saying so I think much of it is is trying to be honest and and and and making time you know not being afraid to make time for yourself to rest.

You know I was down at the Marines yesterday and it was great to hear the head of the Marines I mean their year has been insane they've been every all over over the place and everyone's exhausted there and it was so nice to hear that sort of you know leadership he was just saying we must rest we must truly learn to rest and shoulder burdens.

Together and have each other's back and have that listening ear for people in our team when when the pressure is mounting and that's how a team becomes effective it's how a family becomes effective it's how individuals become effective uh but in terms of of Parenthood I I think doing stuff together isn't it you doesn't you don't.

Have to climb Everest you know it's like the W the well it's like you were saying earlier you know you you take that time to row a bit at the weekend we all have our thing what it's finding your thing and trying to do stuff together because I've learned that's the other big part of building our Armory for life is learning the power of of connection you.

Know in terms of survival I've learned 1 plus one never equals two always equals about five or six and it's the same in terms of relationships in terms of you know building great families it's like you know when you do stuff together the return is so much bigger simple things so running wild is all about you with somebody taking them.

Into that kind of environment what have you learned across all of those eight series now I think uh you know what's common in terms of how people what people find in those Journeys that they do with you well it's interesting because first of all none of these Stars need to be there they're not there for the the money the fame.

The you know that that they're there for something else and the wild gives it but you've got to earn it and it's again like life you know it's what you put in is what you get out and I think the wild is a really clear metaphor for that you're going to be cold you're going to be scared at times you're going to be hungry you're out of your comfort zone.

That Cliff face looks big I've already got blisters you know it's it's a physical visceral sort of reflection of life that sometimes you got to put your head down and actually some you do have to muscle through but also that connection side by side that OnePlus One is five or six and we can do this and then at the end that light and glint in.

Their eye is always there so um I love what it I love what it does to people I love that empowerment but I think I've also noticed the one thing that's always there is fear yeah and I think I've learned that that's okay you know how much of life is people on this joury J never to show any any fear any.

Vulnerability but when we do that we lose all connection our power drains out of our bodies when we give this image of like infallibility it drains out and yet it builds when we connect and when we share those vulnerabilities and fears and fear isn't a bad thing fear is a great thing you know if you're not feeling fear.

You're you're either not going for anything big and scary enough or you're not telling me the truth fear is good it's natural nature nature doesn't give us stuff that isn't natural if we're not used to the fear and we get too much of it blasting through us then it doesn't help us cuz we can't control it we haven't learned how to control it but.

When we're used to dealing with it every day whatever it is standing in front of people I I I struggle with room fulls of people but it's no accident lovely people come on even even these I feel connection now cuz we're Shar good fear is good fear is good fear is fear is good thank you I take it but there no accident I do I spend a lot of time you.

Know doing doing talks for for companies and stuff because I think it's a muscle when we get used to doing the difficult stuff it doesn't get so hard it's always there you know I broke my back in a freeall accident whil I was a soldier and uh people ask me do you still skydive and for those of you know the TV shows you know the answer you know every.

Day part of my life it's a choice embrace the difficult ult stuff but the fear is always there followed by the hand on a shoulder from one of our crew going you got it that's good and we go but when you obviously you're making shows where you can see that fear and the challenge how do you draw the line between sort of fear and risk and danger.

And when it becomes too much and how do you know that is it something is it how you feel afterwards when you barely survive what what's how you must think about insurance company must think about after too late that's good good after it's too late after if you're wrong it's too late people that's how why people die so fears where it's true you know in.

The wild you only get it wrong once so it's no good deciding to listen to that the voice after it's too late then you got to in life you got to have that listening ear you got to trust why it's there and then you've got to make smart decisions and you know there's always another way around stuff if if if if you've really got that screaming voice.

Going inside but then wisdom is about what's a fear voice and what's actually the Instinct voice and tellit about that so I can I'm imagining for me it would be in fact I jumped off a cliff this summer into the sea and it took me a long time to to to jump so when you've got those two voices there's a fear voice and the you call it the Instinct.

Yeah what's how did you get that right well I think I think it's a muscle again it's some how do we get it right we use it with with non-life-threatening things over life you know we first we stop denying it when we feel it we stop running from that other voice when we feel that that we start to get start to get to know each.

Other you know start to get to know those and then when it comes to Crunch times you're a bit older it's it's like experiences the sum of all of my near misses I've had many near misses it's built built experience and I can't you can't tell people how to differentiate that voice you got to them feel that but all I'm saying is put yourself in the.

Fights so you learn to know the the sound and the feel and the those ears uh because otherwise you you're never in it then it becomes and it's a crunch time you don't know you don't know so I think like we were saying earlier so much to life you've got to be in it and out of your comfort zone it's not a Zone it's a pit somewhere you got to get out of oh.

Okay the Comfort pit tell us more about that well because you don't you know you don't want to be in it you got to get out of that comfort zone Comfort is where we rot to look at nature how much comfort's the right amount of comfort well comfort's important but and and and we should rest I'm not saying never rest but it's like training in a gym if all.

You do is lie on the bed you're not going to get strong if all you do is pump iron in the gym you're not going to get strong you need to rest you've got that that listening ear again uh so yeah Comfort pit get out of it but the find to sort of wrap up to that question about running wild what I noticed with these stars is that they're willing to.

Be vulnerable they're willing to be outside of their comfort zone like I said they don't need the money or the fame but they also don't need to take a huge risk with the brand or something going wrong why are they they there because they want to do the difficult they want to be challenged I remember you mentioned feder at the start I.

Remember him before the adventure saying to me I'm more nervous for this than any final at Wimbledon I'm going don't be ridic this is fun this is like we're in the mountains this is good we've got we've got it he goes no I'm really am it's said like so hard for me and then you wonder why he's so good in those crunch moments because it's a muscle you.

Know he's not there cuz he wanted to learn how to use iack although he did learn how to use he's there CU he want to develop that muscle and and it's a good good reminder for all of us yeah and does an athlete approach that kind of Adventure differently from a politician well I've taken so many great athletes over the.

Years and it's interesting because you'd think they'd be much more nervous I remember taking Drew Brees you know what the world's greatest sort of us quarterback and hand inur to sort of have many you know hundreds of millions he was actually not allowed to do it they said he's not allowed to go he didn't tell me this till afterwards and.

I said how come you're here and he goes I just went I just wanted to do but I remember we were like we'd caught this crocodile and we were I was trying to get the slightly less PC days in those days you know but um it was dinner and we was trying to get this knife into this thing and like you know he's on it and I'm on it and we're on this thing.

And he can't get his knife in I remember just in desperation grabbing a rock and he's got his hand here and I was bomb on top of his on top of the knife and that went in and everything calmed down and you know we had a great dinner but he said afterwards he said well I saw that rock you slamming that rock down on the pilt.

Of that knife with my hand holding it and I just thought this is going to be an expensive one to screw up but um you know but I don't know I love that willingness of these guys so often with the sports people there is that willingness of like come on this is how I built my Edge and this is how I'm going to keep my Edge politicians you.

Know I have done a few of that that maybe a little bit more kind of guarded and cool and you know but you know that's all right the wild doesn't judge we're there to encourage and and hear people's stories and and I like that Dynamic that's brilliant um we have time for a couple of audience questions and so do uh raise your hand if you have a.

Question I can see somebody over there we'll see if we can get you a mic meanwhile as as we're sprinting towards you no no we need a mic so the people at home can hear I'm so sorry it's an adventure embrace the fear get your M so um Oh look The mic's arrived just in time.

Now no time to worry jump hi bear I hope you're well you spoke earlier about finding your thing what advice would you give in terms of trying to find your thing and finding time to find your thing while also working a 9 to5 and also um you spoke about fear in terms of because I have my first like quote unquote Big Challenge.

In September I'm facing a lot of like impostor Syndrome from it and finding like a lot lot of like I'm sensing that fear is starting to control me rather than I'm controlling the fear and trying to navigate through that so advice do you have about that brilliant first of all well done this lady is in the.

Fight you know you're you're halfway there and the thing is just keep going keep moving forward like I said in nature nothing stands still stagnant water rots when it s Stills we need movement you know we need that that rowing movement whatever movement is positive movement towards your difficult stuff good for you I think just keep.

Keep you know the fact that you're going towards it you're already every day you're doing it but don't worry about the fear don't focus on the fear focus on doing it and and accept that you're going to find moments hard but that's okay the fear is a big flashing red light the fear is a the fear is a big green monkey on our backs but what I've.

Learned about fear is that if we stop the only way through it is is towards it when we stop and we give it too much pound we start retreating from it and we start avoiding it so what everyone does we're scared of public speaking or hospitals or spiders or whatever it is so we avoid it and the big green monkey gets bigger and we try and Dodge it but.

It gets bigger but when we turn towards and they go come on September here we go bring it on you know and you edge towards it and you do your thing The Green Monkey ain't so bad the green monkey is always always vapor at the end you walk through it but the there's no shortcut you've got to earn it it's a muscle it's every day towards.

The difficult I bet I get a message from you in September going it was way less scary than it was nine months ago when we spoke about it you know and that's a power we're made like this yeah so it's like a step of in sport we break big goals down into small steps everyday thing so it's a little bit about just walking towards it rather than letting.

Yourself stand still I guess there you go I got through a marathon by walking and it was perfectly fine um the other part of your question question though was how you how you find your thing when you're busy yeah I think that's I think that's so true I think um first of all making time just just making time it doesn't have to be big.

Spectacular things does it but it's that but speaks that same willingness of trying new stuff being out of our comfort zone that Comfort pit a little bit finding new things doing things together you know that's what keeps those internal muscles going that that you know that dynamism in our in our life that's so key and you know thing if.

If you're in it and you're trying new stuff and you're doing this with friends you're joining them and you're using your time and you're not just I mean sometimes you it's okay to waste time it's okay to watch movies I'm not saying that in the pit of comfort in in a little bit of com you know I call it the mud hole it's a mudle mud hole mud hole.

As a rhino as a rhino charging through life with a sharp horn scaring for it giving it hell you do need the odd moment in a mud hole You Know cover ourselves in mud and relax that is good but but yeah you're going you're going to find your thing in the process of the Jungle the fight of the Jungle keep trying new things you know I think you.

Probably already know it in your heart you know and then you make time for it other questions good luck in the marathon by the way other questions for the room I've got another one here let's hands up there we go gentleman over there uh thanks for talking today my name is Dan um I was wondering you know you've got this app around mental health.

And you know really kind of using technology in that whole approach and I just wanted to ask how do you think about the way that technology can really positively impact our health we you know whether that's from from tracking and recording things or whether that's from helping us kind of build better habits and yeah change the way that we think.

About these uh these challenges yeah I love it I love it technology you we mustn't be dinosaurs I mean I'm talking about preaching to convert you guys front line for me you know for any you know we mustn't be like oh technology is bad or like kids and screens and we know all of that it's just cuz it's a new tool and it's like overwhelming it's.

Like candy for kids and but we'll figure it out humans are smart we'll figure it out I think the Beating Heart of the issue is always let it make sure it serves you rather than you become a slave to it you I think for our kids it's like when it's like when it's just a default and it's sucking you of energy and the dynamism and creativity you're.

Becoming a slave to that when it's like no I can research this I'm going to look at YouTube and I learn this I'm gonna connect with people I'm going to use that mental health I'm do tools you know suddenly this thing is serving you and I think I always look at it like that so I love technology it's why we're doing this stuff you know this this is uh all.

The resources we have on metal is stuff that's is out there already but it's just we're bringing it all together and we're skewing it for men because there's just this huge sort of terrifying men age 40 over suicide rate that's crazy and nobody's speaking to it so we're just resourcing with simple stuff we've known about breath work or.

Meditation or for me you know I I I like to start the day on my knees for five minutes say sorry ask for help say thank you and then get going you know some people call it meditation whatever it is you know these are all resources that are there little readings little motivational stuff whatever our arsenal of tools are rather than finding them by.

Accident over a lifetime and only getting smart at the end of your life because of Technology we can learn so fast I mean when in history have kids been able to learn so much through YouTube I mean the idea that you know I know I if my 15-year-old wants to learn how to do a backflip forget it when we were 15 it was like I fact I almost did.

Forget it when I was 15 I remember on the street at school being dared by my friends to do a back flip and I land on my head in the street to me was walking like this for you know you unless you either learn through failure or you're dead or you figure it out now it's there you can learn it's like as you're saying about education YouTube's open up.

Everything and it can be a tool for for Brilliance or can be a a negative thing where we lose our creativity so it's about how we react to technology thank you I think we've proba got time for one more question uh anyone else here we got somebody at the front couple at the front uh thank you rob here we.

Go uh hello uh thank you for inspiring me through the life and the question uh is uh that's quite a big thank you I take it you're so kind uh the question is uh if you want to share what was the hardest decision in your life and how did you approach approach to it first of all really nice to meet you thank you for that nice compliment I feel like.

When I meet brilliant people like you and I get to meet people all over the world I feel a connection and I feel we building a community of you know men and women trying to kind of face the battles of life together together stronger never giving up that keeping that Mantra front center in the heart so so thank you for that um I think probably for me that.

Time where I had my back accident as a soldier and I remember being in that hospital military Rehabilitation Center outside of London i' I'd been flowing back from Africa you're in your 20s at this point yeah early 20s and I'd taken for granted all my life my movement of physicality and you know and I joined this Elite regiment and I was top of my.

Game and I was gaining these skills and and living my real dream you know and suddenly I couldn't reach a bathroom 5 meters away without it would take me 20 minutes and I'd be crying with pain and and cried like that you know it's like it's like what am I going to do I can't even do that I can't what am I going to do and you I look back now and.

I think but without that time I would it would I would never have gone on to eventually attempt Everest on the back of that I'd never written that book on the back of that I'd never got that chance at TV on the back of that first show and a couple of failures in TV that people believed in me back to that you know but it takes a catalyst and.

Sometimes that catalyst is pain sometimes that catalyst is trauma and failure and dark places but I suppose it's the message is that it's not the end of the story it's it's not how we start life it's how we end you know those those points of inflection of trauma can often be the making of us and I look back on that time even though it.

Was dark and difficult I did keep going it was stumbling and full of doubt and backwards and forwards but I did keep going and I think the message is embrace the storms know that there are times of opportunity keep going the power of never giving up and the left field things are often the the making of us and life's meant to be a great.

Adventure it's why I said at the start I don't apologize for the failures or the wrinkles or the scars or the failures because they make us and they're things to wear with with pride thank you thank you very much and I I was going to ask you to just leave us with a closing thought there's a lot in there that you said but I wondered if.

I just leave you this question from Brendan who's in Seattle and he he's thinking about his role as a father and and and we started with you know you as a child your children he says um I have two young children I'm trying to come up with a short Mantra of sorts something I can remind them every day to encourage them and be passionate about life I know.

I'm putting her on the spot here but but what would you recommend as a as a mantra like that it's a lovely thought well first of all keep it simple I mean I've got three boys and if they were in this room they would currently be laughing at themselves looking at each other go oh God I know what he's going to say that's that's good it works and.

You know what to the three of you I don't apologize once for it because it's in your heart it should be in your heart longm stay in your heart but it's courage kindness and never give up you know life is going to be scary you're going to have to face some green monkeys you got to be brave you got to go towards the scary stuff you got to be.

Kind along the way it's no good winning The Wimbledon or the fa cups and being an ego and a nightmare and a or a bully or you know you lose all your power again you got to be kind along the way and then ultimately you got to have that ngu never give up spirit because it conquers everything so then my boys have heard it since they were little courage.

Kindness never give up so yeah ladies and gentlemen what an adventure bear girls thank you so much thank you very much thank you thank you everybody

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